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opening doors for me and helping me traverse this world. If he wasn’t there, I don’t know if I would have sur- vived. You can be as friendly and hard-working as you want to be, but if you don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors, and what you should be doing, it’s difficult.
RS: As a prosecutor, your rep- utation is so important. It takes a really long time to build and maintain, and it takes a second to tear down. Just be respect- ful when talking to people.
TM: Be bold. Every woman at
this table has been successful because they have been bold, they’ve gone out and done something and stuck to it.
Made their way. I don’t think anyone here has been given anything.
NH: Once you are mid-level, reach out. If you have an opportunity to help someone along, that’s where we have an obligation to reach out. It’s really good
to network with each other, to build each other up. At the end of the day, we’re just a bunch of human beings just trying to do our best. It can be exhausting.
PW: Talk to people, find people. So
many times, when you are the only one, you do wonder if other people are having this experience, “did so-and- so say this to you?” Because you feel embarrassed that this happened. Connecting with others makes you feel like you can keep going.
SA: As much as work is profes- sional, it is emotional. When you feel like you’re not being given the same opportunities, whether based on your own insecurities or based in actual fact, it’s nice to have people you can go to and trust and feel like you can be candid about what- ever it is you are experiencing and not have it be held against you later.
For me, I don’t feel like I have a lot of role models that fit both my gender and ethnicity. But, I’ve been for- tunate. I’ve had a lot of folks at the DOJ, that despite our differences, have really
helped me figure it out.
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